When talking about death, we have the tendency to think of a closing coffin with one laying in his or her everlasting sleep, being surrounded by bunch of relatives in such a mourning atmosphere. Well, that's death, and like taxes, it's inevitable. But that's not the only death that one will experience in his or her life. Dead inside does exist, but unlike "dead outside", it's somewhat not as important (to most people) as the "real death" so it doesn't get enough attention.
Both dead inside and dead outside are "in some ways" painful as heck, so at least we have some signals that "something is going on". But there is another kind of "death" which slowly happens, without any warning, without any deadlines. As light as breezes gently caressing one's skin, the death in the comfort zone comes in the form of a heavy "light-looking" pillow (in my imagination), unlike the scary, frightening dark lord that we usually think of.
"You don't know what you don't know" sounds obvious, but in retrospect, it's really something.
You don't know that you're dying cause you don't think that you're dying.
Humans, though being the "wisest of all", are similar to frogs in some ways.
When you put a frog into a boiling pot, it will definitely jump its way out, like humans trying to solve the "tip-of-the-iceberg" problems. But if you put a frog into a pot will cool water and slowly heat the water up, it won't jump out, instead, it stays inside. Frogs are amphibians, which means they're ectothermic: their body temperature changes accordingly to the environment. Us humans won the evolution game thanks to our constantly adapting features. We are endothermic, we think and have nice hands, but we're imperfect. We're able to detect the forthcoming problems and solve them nicely most of the time, but with something less paying such attention to like: experiencing your life overlapping in such a common pattern over and over again, we don't care much. We stay in the calm before the storm, and when it finally comes, we don't even know about it.
Silent death in the comfort zone, to me, is quiet frightening to think about. Some might not perceive it as "frightening" as I do, but if you really think about it, and think of which zone you're in right now, you will get a better standpoint for this.
Death in the comfort zone is scary but lucky for you, whenever you're alive, whenever you're still breathing, your heart is still pumping, your life still have the chance to regenerate itself.
okay but how do i get out of this zone, find my passion, pursue it and live life to the fullest?
Short answer: Try new things.
Let me introduce you to Mike.
Mike loves pizza and he eats it mostly everyday.
He gets bored of it eventually, but at the end of the day, he still thinks that "It tastes okay anyway" and he's living a happy life with it, so he only tries pizza and nothing else.
How do you know that you're gonna hate something when you haven't tried it for once in your life? The first impression may suck, but what if it is a blessing in disguise?
Try sushis, lasagnas, risotto, banh chung, dimsums and many more things, you won't know if you don't try damn it.
I like to think of new things as having sex, the first time is painful as f***, you're bleeding and your partner aren't giva fuck about your pain, he still continues gently. But you gotta thank him later. After all the awful times come the pleasure that you've longed for for long.
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Life is the school that doesn't have any books. The great learner learns by observation and listening carefully. Any video with it title being "this will change your life", for me, is clickbaiting af. I'd tried to summarise in a word, but I realise it's too vast to really summarise it by that. Most might say "love", well it's a field of life, but not all of it, I think.
We can't just write down every lesson of life since it's impossible. We perceive life through different standpoints, and each of us comes up with different lessons. The lessons may be different, but it doesn't matter as much. Opinions aren't necessarily right or wrong, it was and will be applied to different situations.
Before I give and end to this mdf long post, here is a tip for you once you've got out of the comfort zone: "Get out of the COMFORT zone, but do RELAX. Work HARD, play it DOWN".
If you're digging diamonds in a new zone, don't you get too excited and get burnt out. Relax, it's the most overseen key to be productive and accomplish great things.
Play it down.
Lyss of 5/9/2020.
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